GREENSBORO, N.C. — Today is National Youth Confidence Day.
Body language expert Blanca Cobb spoke about social media and self-esteem. She discussed how platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat can impact teens and how they compare themselves to others.
Here’s more of what she shared during one segment on our Good Morning Show:
Let's start with the big picture. How do you think social media impacts young people's confidence and self-esteem?
"Social media can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it provides a platform for connection and self-expression, which can be empowering for young people. However, it also creates a lot of pressure. Teens are constantly exposed to curated, filtered versions of reality—perfect bodies, perfect lives, perfect experiences. This can lead to what we call 'comparison culture,' where they measure their worth against unrealistic standards, and unfortunately, this can really harm their self-esteem."
What can parents and teens do to build a healthier relationship with social media and, in turn, strengthen their confidence?
"One of the most effective strategies is promoting what we call 'media literacy.' This means teaching young people to critically evaluate what they see online. Encourage them to understand that most of what's posted is carefully curated and not a reflection of reality. Also, parents should set healthy boundaries for screen time and encourage offline activities where kids can build confidence—whether through sports, arts, or simply spending time with friends. It's also helpful for parents to model positive behavior by not becoming too absorbed in their own social media presence."
Are there any tips you'd offer directly to teens who might feel overwhelmed by social media?
"For teens, I would say focus on self-expression rather than validation. Post because it's something you like, not because you think it will get the most likes. Another tip is to take regular breaks from social media—what we call 'digital detoxes'—even just for a weekend, to reconnect with the real world. Finally, surround yourself with accounts that promote positivity and authenticity, and unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself."
We continued the conversation on National Youth Confidence Day with Cobb and explored body language and confidence in another segment on our Good Morning Show.
Here's what Cobb shared about the subject:
Can you explain how body language specifically affects confidence in young people?
"Body language is a powerful tool for shaping not only how others see us, but also how we feel about ourselves. For young people, especially teens, the way they stand, sit, and move can either boost or diminish their sense of confidence. For example, slouching or making themselves 'small' can reinforce feelings of insecurity, while standing tall, with open shoulders and making eye contact, can create a feeling of self-assurance. This is something we call 'embodied cognition,' where the way you physically hold yourself can influence your emotions and thoughts."
So, when teens are in situations where they're feeling nervous or insecure, what are some quick adjustments they can make to their body language to boost their confidence?
"One of the simplest and most effective changes is posture. Encourage teens to stand tall with their shoulders back, chin up, and feet firmly planted. This is called the 'power pose,' and research shows that just standing this way for a couple of minutes can actually lower stress hormones and increase feelings of confidence. Another quick adjustment is making eye contact. Looking people in the eye, even when they're feeling unsure, signals self-assurance and helps build connection with others. Lastly, teach them to avoid crossing their arms, which can come off as defensive, and instead keep their arms relaxed and open."
Are there any exercises parents can practice with their teens to help them become more aware of their body language and use it to their advantage?
"One exercise I recommend is practicing 'mirror work,' where parents and teens stand in front of a mirror together and mimic confident body language—standing tall, smiling, making eye contact. It may feel a bit silly at first, but it helps teens see what confidence looks like and get comfortable with it. Another fun activity is role-playing common scenarios, like introducing themselves to a new group of friends or giving a presentation in class. Have them focus on their body language during the role-play, and then discuss how it felt afterward. It's all about building self-awareness."
You can continue the conversation with Blanca on her Facebook page: Blanca Cobb – Body Language Expert.
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