GREENSBORO, N.C. — So, your Valentine's Day didn't quite go as planned. Reservations MIA? Gift less than thrilling? Don't fret! A less-than-perfect February 14th doesn't define your relationship or happiness.
People put so much pressure on Valentine's Day because they think it's the ultimate day of romance. They falsely think that something is wrong with their relationship if Valentine's Day goes wrong. And this isn't necessarily so.
When your Valentine's Day doesn't go as expected, it's easy to spiral into disappointment. Instead, take a deep breath. Ask yourself if the night was truly awful or just different than expected. Reframe negative thoughts. Maybe the "meh" gift shows they're saving for something bigger, or perhaps the canceled reservation just meant more quality time at home.
Before you talk to your partner, make sure that your emotions are in check. If you're silently fuming, it might sneak out in your tone of voice or body language. Tell them what you had hoped for and ask what happened. Share your feelings openly and honestly, but avoid accusations. Focus on solutions: "I was looking forward to the reservation. Would you be open to rescheduling or trying a different restaurant?"
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